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BE your own best friend...
BE your own best friend...
Most of us are not taught HOW to use our body/brain. Focusing is a way of living confidently connected to your own inner knowing in relationship to yourself and others. We can continue to look outside of ourselves for answers or we can show up as our own self-mentor. When we do this, our body naturally rewires behavioral, emotional and thought patterns that are no longer serving our well-being.
Just as our heart and our lung have jobs they do for us, there are infinite aspects of self potentially asking you to be seen and acknowledged. We are the space for all of this to belong and feel safe to be the way it is. Repetitive thoughts or emotions, addictive or stuck behavioral patterns, anxiety, health issues and spiritual angst are all signs that our body is seeking our attention.
Focusing reminds us that wanting to be seen is normal. Once we begin being our own best friend, holding space to listen within, we won't ever stop. No matter where we are in life, there are more layers potentially emerging. We could reference Rumi here, and imagine that each is sent as a guide from beyond. Life thrives on quality relationships and our body is our best teacher at what that means for us now.
Learning to BE our own best friend gives us the power to create the world within us that we would like to experience around us. A world with qualities like patience, kindness, courage, and authenticity.
Where are you now? What is it you want to create with your life?
We're in this together
Most of our world cultures encourage fast responses. As much as I naturally prefer a slower pace and more space, I've also found myself easily swept along juggling life's daily demands best I can.
For much of my life, when my fast juggles crashed, I would first find a friend to chat with. This was helpful, like a temporary bandaid. Ultimately, I would find ways to spend time alone, processing my experiences, holding space for all the parts within me to find peace and a sense of my next step.
During those years, I carried an understanding that this aspect of life, my inner world, was mine to walk alone. All of my personal growth and spiritual studies confirmed this. And yet, something in me was sad and longed for someone to take my hand and say‚ "I'll go too". Possibly, that longing is part of how I found my way to Focusing.
We are not alone here. We are in it together. We learn not only to accompany our own process, also how to hold space for each other. With this understanding, I approach what I do here as personal empowerment and community building, together, as one.
As a Focusing Coordinator, I enjoy working with individuals and teaching groups. I offer introductory talks and classes, year-long basic skills training and an ongoing Learning Community for Mastery in Guiding Change. This ongoing community is for advanced Focusers who support others in change processes. It also can be a path to certification for you as a Focusing Professional with The International Focusing Institute.
I have at least three goals in teaching:
1- Self-empowerment in your daily life by incorporating the power of the pause into your natural way of being. In slowing down how we live, we access more of our capabilities as a human being, with numerous mental and physical longterm health benefits.
2- We are here to connect and grow. Inner Relationship Focusing training is ingenious in that we unlearn social-emotional patterns that do not work first in order to build healthier authentic relationships with ourselves and others. The benefits of a regular partnership practice develop here.
3- Understanding Gendlin's concept of crossing. I personally crossed Focusing with emerging neuroscience in developing Smartview Stories as a way to bring Focusing into schools and other educational settings. The Learning Community is intentionally designed to encourage all of us to cross Focusing concepts with other life experiences we have and then, bring what we learn to share with others in the community. We are all valued here.
I also weave passions for families, local community, health, well-being and spirituality into what I do here. I work mostly from home and enjoy a simple life, with garden time galore, pet play, and nature walks. Visit my About Sandy page for more about my personal journey.
"Sandy loves sharing the gift of Focusing and it shows! She sparkles with passion and commitment for the work and embodies a deep confidence and understanding of the process. She also gets things done – with large doses of creativity and courage. It has been a pleasure to mentor and work alongside Sandy as well as cheer her on as she continues to cultivate and support a Focusing community. I recommend her highly as a teacher and a Focusing guide." Cathy Pascal, LCSW & Focusing Coordinator
A New Frontier in Focusing!
Using Interactive Focusing, we can form bonds, strengthen relationships, and build better teams and communities through empathic listening and the sharing of the deep wisdom of both Focusing and Interaction.
Barbara Dickinson and I have joined forces to provide resources and learning opportunities for Exploring Interaction. Check out this page for our latest news!