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Demonstration of Interactive Focusing
This video shows you a “double wing” of interactive Focusing. The Developers used the terms “single wing” and “double wing” to identify a session with two turns of an Interactive Focusing partnership.
In the first turn or single wing, one partner takes the role of “Focuser as Storyteller/Focuser as Teacher. The other partner takes the role of listener, and delivers a double empathic moment – the first “jewel” of interactive focusing – when the Focuser comes to a resting place.
When it is time to change places, the first Focuser becomes the Listener and the first Listener becomes Storyteller/Teacher. Then the new Focuser briefly explores their "interactive response". That is, what touched them inside about the first Focuser’s session. This is the second of 3 “jewels” of interactive focusing.
It is important to note here that the Developers believed this “interactive response” to be so important to the process. At the same time, the Interactive Response compels us to keep track of who starts the session so that it isn't always the same person. Without this “back and forth”, if the same person always starts, the 2nd Focuser is always responding, rather than initiating their own topic in alternating sessions.
The second turn proceeds like the first through the double empathic moment. At this point, the double wing of Interactive Focusing is nearly complete. What remains is the closing "relationship check" – the 3rd jewel of interactive focusing. Dr. Janet Klein described this as both the "dreaded and desired" component of interaction. We both long to know, and dread to find out, how we are regarded by another.
In the robust safety of the Interactive Focusing practice, the relationship check allows us to examine how we are now, at the end of the session, and how we are with our partner, in the context of how it was at the start of the session. The latter is done from the perspective of "What do I admire about my partner "?" as the starting place.
Perhaps you can already sense how the skills we learn in Interactive Focusing partnership can offer us so much – such wealth – in how we relate to ourselves, as well as others.
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